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If you're a whiny snowflake that can't handle the truth, is offended by the word fuck and about 37 uses of it in different forms, gets ass hurt when you hear someone speak the absolute real and raw truth, you should leave. Like right now. This is shut up and shoes. The podcast where we cut through the shit and get real about weight loss, life, and everything in between, we get into the nitty-gritty of making small, smart choices that add up to big results. From what's on your plate and how you approach life's challenges, we'll explore how the simple act of choosing differently can transform your health, your mindset, and your entire freaking life. So, if you're ready to cut through the bullshit and start making some real changes, then buckle up and shut it up, because we're about to choose our way to a healthier, happier life. This is Shut Up and Choose. Let's do this. Now your host, Jonathan Russell.

Host Sets Anti-Diet Stance

Jonathan Ressler 1:14

Welcome back to Shut Up and Choose, the podcast cutching the noise and the nonsense, and all the bullshit that the diet industry is throwing your way and trying to convince you that you don't know what you're doing, that you can't trust yourself, that you're not in control of your own body, and that the only way you can lose weight is to listen to the industry or some idiot influencer, some moron online, but the truth is you're in complete control.

Halloween As Trigger Season

Jonathan Ressler 1:38

So look, it's the end of the month, and Halloween is coming. And let's be honest for a second. Halloween is the fat person's favorite holiday. Always has been, always will be. Why? Because it's the one day of the year when you can shovel candy into your mouth and no one judges you. It's socially acceptable to walk around with a pumpkin bucket full of sugar bombs. You can even wear a mask while you do it. That's genius! Everywhere you look, temptation is dressed up in orange and black. Your office desk turns into a sugar graveyard, mini Snickers, Reese's cups, Twix bars. I personally love Juju fruits, but all those little bastards waiting to ambush your good intentions. If you have kids, they come home with pillowcases full of candy and somehow half of it mysteriously disappears after they go to bed. And at the checkout one, I forget it, those pumpkin-shaped Reese's and those the Cadbury cream eggs, oh, they're practically screaming your name. Now, like I said, with Halloween coming up, I thought this was an important topic. Because for a lot of people who are trying to lose weight, this time of year feels like the start of a slippery slope. Halloween rolls into Thanksgiving, which bleeds into Christmas, and suddenly by January, you're Googling detoxes and pretending it's all going to be different this year. It's not. Not if you keep doing the same old thing. Because here's the thing that most people miss Halloween isn't the problem. Candy isn't the problem.

Candy Isn’t The Problem

Jonathan Ressler 3:02

You aren't even the problem. The problem is the way you think about it. Diet culture has trained you to believe that food has moral value, that candy is bad and you're good if you resist it. But that's bullshit. Candy is just candy. The only thing that gives it power is the way you react to it. And that's where my philosophy comes in. Stop dieting, start choosing. Because dieting through Halloween is a recipe for failure. It's a disaster. The second you tell yourself you can't have any, your brain becomes obsessed with it. You start negotiating with yourself. I'll have just one, which, you know, turns into five, which turns into fuck it. I'll start again on Monday. If that sounds familiar, guess what? That's not discipline failing you. That's a bad system. When you start choosing instead of dieting, everything changes. You take back control. You decide if candy is worth it. You decide when to stop. You decide how to move on. No guilt, no shame, just power. So today, I'm not going to tell you to throw out your kids' candy or avoid Halloween parties. That's just fucking stupid. What I am going to do is show you how to walk into Halloween like someone who's in control, not someone who's trying to survive it because this holiday doesn't have to derail you. It can actually be proof that you're winning. So here's the truth about Halloween and weight loss. It's not really about candy. It's about control, or more accurately, the illusion of control. For most people trying to lose weight, Halloween feels like a setup. The candy bowl is basically a booby trap. You are surrounded by sugar, and every diet really you've ever memorized starts shouting in your head, don't do it. Don't eat that. You'll ruin everything. But let me ask you a question. Has that ever actually worked? Because I've never met anyone who's white knuckled their way through a holiday and said, wow, I feel so empowered and balanced right now. What usually happens? You resist it for a little bit, maybe a day or two, and then you cave. And when you do, the guilt hits harder than the sugar crash. You tell yourself, you've blown it. You feel weak, you spiral, then you swear you'll get back on track next week and the cycle starts again. This is the trap. And

From Obeying Rules To Choosing

Jonathan Ressler 5:15

it's not your fault. It's the diet mindset. Diets operate on the idea of control through restriction. They tell you that success means avoiding temptation, that if you just had a little more willpower, you'd be fine. But that's not how real life works. You have a job, maybe some kids, we all have stress, and a thousand decisions that are hitting you every single day. Your mental energy is already spent before you even see that first can you wrap it. So when the temptation shows up, your brain grabs what's ever easier. That's not weakness, that's human biology. The reason that diets fail during Halloween or any holiday for that matter is because they teach you how to fear food instead of understand it. They teach you to obey instead of choose. And when you're obeying, you're not really in control, you're just following orders. Now here's the big shift. Choosers don't obey. Choosers decide. A dieter says, I can't eat candy, but a chooser says, I can, but do I really want it? One response is fear-based and the other is power-based. One feels like punishment and the other one feels like freedom. That difference changes everything because when you approach Halloween as a chooser, you're no longer playing defense. You're on offense. You're deciding in real time what serves you and what doesn't. You can enjoy a few pieces of candy without guilt because you know exactly what you're doing and you're doing it on purpose. This is what people don't understand about weight loss that actually lasts. It's not about being perfect, it's about being present. When you choose consciously, every situation, even Halloween, becomes an opportunity to practice control without suffering. So instead of dreading the candy bowl this year, use it as a training. See it as your gym for decision making. Because if you can master your choices on Halloween, you can pretty much handle anything.

Personal Halloween Transformation Story

Jonathan Ressler 7:09

I I'll never forget my first Halloween after I lost all the weight. For most of my life, Halloween meant one thing: permission. Permission to binge, to joke about it, hide behind. It's just once a year. I'd buy the big bags of candy, you know, the for the trick-or-treater ones, and open them a week early. By the time the actual kid showed up, I was already on bag number three. And I'd laugh about it. I call it my cheat week, pretend it was no big deal. But deep down it was because I wasn't choosing. I was escaping. So if we fast forward to that Halloween after the transformation, I was a completely different person. And I'm not just saying physically, but mentally. I remember standing in front of the same candy aisle at the grocery store, same brand, same bright wrappers, but this time it felt different. The candy didn't owe me anymore. That night I had a few pieces. That's it. I didn't overthink it. I didn't spiral into guilt. I didn't promise myself I'd do an extra workout the next day because I don't go to the gym. I just enjoyed it and I moved on. And in that moment, not the weight loss, not the before and after photo, not the number on the scale, that moment was when I realized that I'd actually changed because that's called life. And what this whole thing is supposed to be about. Not living in fear of food, not feeling like you have to earn your candy, not punishing yourself for being human. It's about freedom, real freedom, the kind that comes when you finally stop dieting and start choosing. So when people ask me how I stayed consistent after losing weight, I tell them it wasn't discipline. It was ownership. I owned my choices. I stopped pretending food had power over me. I stopped giving candy the ability to ruin my day. Halloween became just another day, not a landmine, not a trigger, and definitely not a test. Just a day with fucking candy in it. And that's what I want everyone listening to understand. The goal isn't to never eat the candy. The goal is to be able to eat it without guilt, to know you're in control and to move on without the emotional hangover that used to follow it. That's the true transformation. It's not the pounds you lose, it's the control that you gain. So when people panic about Halloween, I get it. I've been there, but trust me, it's not about the sugar, the calories, or the wrappers. It's about reclaiming your power one small, smart choice at a time. But here's the thing about the holidays. They expose the truth about whatever system you're currently using. If you're dieting, holidays show you how weak that system actually is. Because let's be honest, life doesn't give a shit about your meal plan. Halloween doesn't care about your macros. Thanksgiving doesn't care that you're apptled you've hit your sugar limit for the day. Life is unpredictable. It's busy, it's messy, it's emotional. So if your weight loss strategy collapses the minute someone offers you a mini Snickers, it's definitely not a good strategy. That's what I learned after years of living in the diet loop. Every holiday season was the same.

Holidays Expose Fragile Diet Systems

Jonathan Ressler 10:05

I go in with good intentions. This year's gonna be different. I prep meals, I'd make promises, I plan to be good. But the moment something went off my plan, a party, a stressful day, a craving to hit out of nowhere, I break the rule. And once I broke it, I figured I might as well break them all. That's the trap. Diets are all or nothing systems in an all-over the place world. They demand perfection, but life guarantees imperfection, which means you're always just one second away from failure. Holidays amplify that pressure. You're surrounded by food and family and stress and nostalgia. You're you're tired, distracted. Last thing you want is another rule. So when you finally give in, the guilt doesn't just hit, it fucking crushes you. And that guilt leads to shame, which leads to punishment, which leads to more eating. You don't fail the diet, the diet fails you. Here's what I wish someone had told me years ago. Rules are fragile. Choices are flexible. When you live by rules, you feel powerful right up until you break one. Then you feel powerless. When you live by choices, you feel powerful all the time. Because even when you choose something indulgent, you're still in control. That's why diets fall apart around the holidays. They rely on control through restriction. Don't eat that, avoid this, stay strong. But the more you strict, the more your brain rebels. I mean, you know that. It's wired for survival, not starvation. When you tell yourself you can't have something, your mind starts obsessing over it. It's like telling a kid not to touch the red button. You just made that button irresistible. That's why I built my whole approach around stop dieting, start choosing. Because choosing doesn't mean perfection, it means power. It means you can go to the Halloween party, have the candy, and still wake up the next day proud of yourself, not ashamed. I want people to understand this. Holidays aren't tests of willpower. They're opportunities to practice awareness. They're where you learn how to live, not how to restrict. Because here's what life after transformation actually looks like. It's not constant

Choice Over Restriction Framework

Jonathan Ressler 12:15

discipline or endless clean eating. It's navigating real life. Birthdays, vacations, celebrations, holidays, all that shit without guilt, without collapse, and definitely without starting over every fucking Monday. So if Halloween scares you, it's not because of the candy. It's because your system depends on perfection and you know perfection doesn't exist. But when you switch from dieting to choosing, Halloween becomes proof that you've changed. You can eat candy and still feel proud. You can enjoy the party and stay on track. You can live like a normal human being and still lose weight or maintain weight. That's the freedom no diet will ever give you because diets are about control and choice is about ownership. So you don't need to avoid Halloween, you just need to own it. And when you start doing that, really doing it, every holiday becomes easier because you stop trying to survive them and you start living through them.

Seven Practical Halloween Choices

Jonathan Ressler 13:17

I know that was a lot of talk, but now it's time to get practical because while I love a good rant about die culture, I also believe in giving you actual tools, things you can use today to make Halloween not just survivable, but actually enjoyable. These aren't rules, they're choices. Seven small, smart, doable choices that put you back in control. Because Halloween isn't about saying no, it's about saying yes on purpose. So the first rule is choose your candy like a critic. Let's start with the obvious. If you're gonna eat candy, make it count. Don't waste your choices on junk you don't even love. Half the reason people feel guilty is because they eat mindlessly. So here's the deal: only eat what you truly enjoy. Not what's sitting there, not what's fun sides, not what's left over. If you're gonna have candy, make it your favorite candy. For me, well, there's so many, but for me, probably juju fruits or Reese's. But so savor it, appreciate it, because one piece of something amazing is worth 10 pieces of something you don't even like. I've eaten more candy that I don't like just because it was there than I could even discuss. But so think of it this way: you're a food critic, not a scavenger. Choosers eat with intention, dieters eat with fear. Number two is eat before the sugar storm. So you know what guarantees a binge? Showing up to Halloween hungry. That's when every piece of candy feels irresistible. So eat some real food first. I'm talking about protein and fiber, something that actually fills you up and stabilizes your blood sugar. Some chicken, some steak, some veggies, even a protein shake. Anything that makes you feel grounded before you're surrounded by Kit Cats. When you're satisfied, you make better choices. And when you're starving, you make excuses. Rule number three is delay the decision. One of my favorite strategies, don't say no, say later. When you see the candy ball, don't declare war. Just tell yourself, I'll have some later. That tiny delay gives your brain some time to cool off. Nine times out of ten, that craving passes. And if it doesn't, then you eat a piece intentionally, not impulsively. That small pause is your power. You're not depriving yourself, you're deciding. Rule number four, choose boundaries, not rules. Rules say don't. Boundaries say decide. This might be the biggest shift of all. Set your own parameters. Ones that make sense for your life. Maybe it's I'll have three pieces and stop. Maybe it's I'll have candy only after dinner. Maybe it's uh I'm keeping one favorite and giving the rest away. Whatever it is, boundaries give you freedom with structure. Rules give you anxiety and guilt. And the best part, when you choose your own boundaries, you're far more likely to keep them because they came from you, not from some diet jerk or book written by a guy who's never been fat a day in his life. Number five is ditch the guilt costume you're wearing. You didn't ruin anything, you didn't cheat. You made a choice. This is where people self-destruct. They eat candy, feel guilty, and then double down with a binge because the day's ruined. It's not ruined, it's it's just real life. You are not your food choices. You're the person who makes them. So stop dressing up as guilt for Halloween. If you have some candy, great. Own it. Move on. The people who lose weight and keep it off aren't the ones who never slip. They're the ones who refuse to turn a slip into a slide. Rule number six, this should be obvious, but for a lot of it's not. Don't keep candy in the house. Let's be real. Willpower is wildly overrated. You can't resist what's constantly staring at you. So don't make it harder than it needs to be. Don't buy candy for the trick-or-treaters two weeks early. Don't keep a ball on the counter and don't set yourself up to fight the same battle 50 times a day. Environment beats willpower every single time. Make your surroundings match your goals, not your temptations. And then the seventh and last one is reward yourself with some momentum. Here's how you win every day after Halloween. You wake up and keep going. You drink water, you eat breakfast, you move, you act like a person who's already in control because that's the real reward. Not the candy, not the sugar hit, but the pride that comes from that consistency. Moment feels much better than MM's. I'm still convincing myself of that, but it does. And confidence tastes much better than chocolate. That one happens to be true. When you treat every small win as proof of your progress, you start stacking them. And when you stack them up, they turn into transformation. The point of these seven choices isn't to make Halloween safe, it's to make it yours. You don't need to avoid the candy, you just need to stop surrendering to it. You don't need rules, you need awareness. You don't need restriction, you need ownership. And when you live like that, Halloween becomes just another day where you choose power over autopilot. That's how to stop dieting and start choosing, even when the world is covered in chocolate, like it is on Halloween. But

Beyond Candy: Identity And Awareness

Jonathan Ressler 18:20

here's the thing about all this it's never just about candy. It never was. Candy is the easy example, the visible symptom. But underneath it, it's about choice. It's about identity. It's about whether you're living life on autopilot or actually driving. Because Halloween is just one night. But if we're being honest here, there's always another Halloween around the corner. The birthday party, the office snacks, the vacation buffet, the random Tuesday night stress binge. You don't fail once a year. You get tested every single day. So when you practice these choices during Halloween, you're not learning how to survive a sugar holiday. You're learning how to live as someone who's in control. Someone who doesn't need a list of rules taped to the refrigerator. Someone who can walk into any situation, like a party or a dinner or trip, and decide what's worth it. That's real power. And once you've felt that, you don't go back. See, people think transformation is about food or exercise or willpower. It's not. It's about awareness. Awareness of what you eat, awareness of what you're feeling, awareness of when you're using food to fill a void that can't be filled that way. Diets teach you to suppress that awareness. They say, just follow the plan. Don't think, don't question, don't feel. But when you numb awareness, you numb choice. When you numb choice, you lose control. Choosing, on the other hand, forces you to wake up, to pause, to ask, what do I actually want right now? Sometimes the answer is a Reese's, and that's fine. Sometimes it's a walk or water asleep. That's the point. You get to choose. When I lost 140 pounds, people assumed I found the perfect plan. But there was no plan. There was just choice, one small, smart choice after another. And what I learned is that once you stop dieting, life starts opening up. You stop waiting for someday to feel good in your body, you start living now. And that's what I want for everyone listening because food shouldn't be your enemy. It shouldn't be the thing that ruins your holidays or defines your self-worth. Food is just food. It's your mindset that gives it meaning. You can't control every situation, but you can always control your next choice. That's what separates transformation from torture. Dieters fight reality. Choosers work with it. And here's the best part: every time you choose differently, even once your identity shifts a little, you start being the person who tries to lose weight, and you start becoming the person who decides to live differently. That's not motivation, that's ownership. So as Halloween comes and goes, remember this it's not about being perfect, it's about being intentional. You're not aiming to win every battle. You're learning and stop fighting the wrong war. Candy will come and go. Holidays will come and go. But your ability to choose, to stay in control, to live with awareness, to own your own story, that's the thing that lasts. Because at the end of the day, sustainable weight loss and real transformation isn't about saying no. It's about saying yes. Yes to living your life without guilt, without rules, and without shame. That's the big picture. That's freedom. That's what it means to stop dieting and start choosing.

Mindset Shift And Recovery Speed

Jonathan Ressler 21:41

So we have to talk a little bit about mindset because all the strategies, tricks, candy hacks in the world don't mean a fucking thing if your head isn't right. This is where a lot of people get stuck. They treat every decision like it's a moral report card. I was good today. I was bad today. I earned my treat. I blew my diet. Sound familiar? That language is poison. It keeps you stuck in this exhausting game of punishment and reward as if eating a piece of candy somehow determines your worth as a person. Here's a news flash. It doesn't. It never has. So let's reframe that once and for all. You are not what you eat. You are what you choose. That's the whole point of stop dieting, start choosing. Because once you realize your power comes from the decisions you make, not the rules you follow, you stop giving the food the ability to control you. Now here's the truth: no one in the diet industry wants to admit. You will fuck up. You will eat things you didn't plan to eat. You will have days that don't go as planned. You will have moments where you feel weak or tired or emotional, and the candy wins. And that's okay. You're human. You're not a robot. You're not broken. You're living. The difference between people who transform and people who stay stuck isn't perfection. It's recovery speed. It's how quickly you get back up after you fall. Dieters fall and say, Oh, I blew it. Chooses fall and say, All right, big fucking deal. That happened. What's next? That's the mindset shift that changes everything. You have to learn to forgive yourself faster than you judge yourself. You have to learn to see data, not drama. Every mistake, honestly, is feedback. It's a message from your body or your brain saying, hey, something's off. Maybe you're hungry, you're stressed, you're tired, bored, who knows? Okay, good to know. Learn from it, adjust, and move on. The goal is not to never fall. It's to fall forward. When you take the emotion out of it and just see it for what it is, a choice, an outcome, and an opportunity to choose differently next time, you become unstoppable. That's what true freedom looks like. Freedom from guilt, freedom from food anxiety, freedom from the constant negotiation in your head. You can still love food, you can still enjoy holidays, you can still have a Reese's or a handful of candy corn or one of those cadbury cream. Oh, those things are so good. What you can't do, what you're done doing, is letting that define you because you're not on a diet anymore. You're in charge now. That's what makes this approach so powerful. It's not about sticking to a plan, it's about developing a mindset of someone who doesn't need one. Once you've built that trust with yourself, that unshakable belief that you can make good choices and recover from bad ones, you're free. You don't need to get back on track because there is no track. There's just life. And life is messy, but it's also beautiful when you stop fighting it. So this Halloween and every holiday after it, remember, it's not about willpower or restriction or perfection. It's about grace. It's about awareness, it's about accountability. Make the next best choice. That's it. That's how you build confidence. That's how you build consistency. That's how you build a life that feels good. Not because you follow diet, but because you took back control. So I want to turn this from talk into action because insight without action is just more noise, and the world already has enough of that fucking noise out there.

The One-Choice Halloween Challenge

Jonathan Ressler 25:15

So here's your Halloween challenge. It's simple but powerful. Make one small, smart choice this week on purpose. That's it. I don't care what the choice is. I don't care if it's tiny. I just care that it's intentional. Maybe your choice is that you'll eat your favorite candy and stop at two pieces. Maybe it's that you'll actually sit down and enjoy the candy instead of sneaking it standing over the counter. Guilty. Maybe it's that you drink a glass of water before you reach for anything sweet. Maybe it's that you'll eat a real meal before you dive into the party snacks. I don't know. It doesn't have to be dramatic. It just has to be deliberate because every time you make that conscious choice, you build the muscle that keeps you free. You stop reacting, you start deciding. And that's where the power is. That's how you'll train your brain to trust you again. And trust me for a second, that trust is everything. When you've spent years promising yourself, I'll start Monday, I'll just have one, I'll do better tomorrow. You stop believing your own words. That's what makes weight loss feel impossible. It's not the food and it's not your body, it's that lack of trust. Every time you make one small, smart choice and follow through, you're rebuilding that trust. You show yourself, hey, I can do this. And the next time it's even easier. That's what transformation really is. Not one massive decision, but thousands of small ones stacked together until they become who you really are. So pick your choice. Write it down, say it out loud if you need to. Tell someone, or you know, tell me, tag me on Instagram at Jonathan WrestleFat Los and let me know what you chose. It doesn't matter. Because this isn't about being perfect on Halloween. It's about being present. It's about walking away from another holiday season, finally feeling like you're in control. This year, when you look at that candy bowl, don't think, I can't have that. Think I get to choose because that's who you are now. A chooser, not a dieter, not a victim, not someone waiting for the perfect time to get it right. You're already doing it. So go live your life, eat your fucking candy, and make one small, smart choice that moves you forward. That's the challenge. That's the work. That's the win. So here's the real takeaway I want you to walk away with this Halloween. Candy doesn't control you, diets do. Halloween is not the enemy. The candy is not plotting against you. The problem is the belief that you have to be perfect to make progress. You don't. You just have to keep choosing. You're not on a diet anymore. You're on a mission to live your life fully, freely, and consciously.

Book And Free Tips CTA

Jonathan Ressler 27:46

That means taking your power back from every piece of food that ever made you feel weak, guilty, ashamed, or like a piece of shit. You can eat candy and still lose weight. You can go to parties and still make progress. You can live a real life with birthdays and stress and holidays, and yeah, even chocolate and donuts and still transform your health. You just have to stop waiting for the perfect plan and start trusting yourself. That's exactly why I wrote my book, Shut Up and Choose. The book isn't another diet manual. It's a rebellion against all of them. It's the framework that helped me lose 140 pounds and keep it off, not by eating less, but by thinking differently. It's it's raw, it's honest, a little uncomfortable because it forces you to take ownership, but it's also freeing as hell. It's also an Amazon bestseller. So if you're done being lied to by the diet industry, if you're tired of starting out every Monday, if you're ready to finally stop negotiating with yourself, this book is where you need to start. It's not about food, it's about choice, it's about power, it's about remembering that you already know what to do. You just need to stop giving your power away and start choosing again. And if you're not ready for the book yet, start with my free tips at jonathanwrestler.com. That's my website. They're short, they're direct, they're no BS reminders to cut through the noise and keep you focused. I send them straight to you from me, practical, real, and built for busy people who want results without obsession. Because this isn't about motivation, it's about momentum. You don't need to overhaul your life. You just need to make one small, smart choice and then another. Those choices stack on each other. They build confidence, they build consistency, and before you know it, they build the life you've been waiting

Closing Motivation And Sign-Off

Jonathan Ressler 29:30

for. So this Halloween, don't overthink it, don't restrict, don't feel guilty, eat the fucking candy, own the choice, and then move on. Because this isn't about dieting, it's about deciding. It's about living. It's about you finally realizing that freedom doesn't come from saying no. It comes from knowing that you could and still choosing what's right for you. So this Halloween and every day after it, remember this you don't need perfection, you need awareness. You don't need another plan. You just need the courage to make one small, smart choice at a time. That's how real transformation happens. That's how freedom feels. And that's how you shut up and choose.

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You've been listening to Shut Up and Choose. Jonathan's passion is to share his journey of shedding 130 pounds in less than a year without any of the usual gimmicks. No diets, no pills, and we'll let you in on a little secret. No fucking gym. And guess what? You can do it too. We hope you enjoyed the show. We had a fucking blast. If you did, make sure to like, rate, and review. We'll be back soon. But in the meantime, find Jonathan on Instagram at Jonathan Wrestler Boca Ratan. Until next time, shut up and choose.