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If you're a whiny snowflake that can't handle the truth, is offended by the word fuck and about 37 uses of it in different forms gets ass hurt. When you hear someone speak the absolute, real and raw truth, you should leave Like right now. This is Shut Up and Choose, the podcast where we cut through the shit and get real about weight loss, life and everything in between. We get into the nitty gritty of making small, smart choices that add up to big results. From what's on your plate to how you approach life's challenges. We'll explore how the simple act of choosing differently can transform your health, your mindset and your entire freaking life. So if you're ready to cut through the bullshit and start making some real changes, then buckle up and shut up, because we're about to choose our way to a healthier, happier life. This is Shut Up and Choose. Let's do this Now. Your host, jonathan Ressler.

Jonathan Ressler 1:14

Hey, welcome back to Shut Up and Choose the podcast that cuts the noise, the nonsense and all the other bullshit that the internet and Instagram gurus are spitting your way. All those Instagram influencers with the ripped abs that have never lost more than a pound or two, that basically it's their job to sit in the gym. I try to throw all that shit to the curb and give you the real deal, some real thoughts on weight loss and how it really works. Not how it works in fantasy land, not how it works for the $70 billion diet industry,

Southwest Airlines' Size Policy

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how it works in the real life. So today I want to talk about a company that's been in the news quite a bit as of late. And no, I'm not talking about Cracker Barrel and their rebrand, and they're actually going back to the old brand. I do have a lot to say about that, but that's not what this podcast is about. So I'm talking about Southwest Airlines and their new size policy making people who don't fit into one seat buy another one. I agree with it 100%. If an airline has to charge you for two seats, maybe that's not discrimination. Maybe that's your wake-up call. Southwest Airlines just reminded America of something we've all been trying to avoid. Seats aren't really getting smaller, we're getting bigger.

Jonathan Ressler 2:25

And before you get pissed off, let's be honest. This isn't about shame. It's about truth and consequences and choices. Airplanes are designed with a very simple reality in mind One seat per passenger. If you physically can't fit into one seat, that's not the airline's fault. That's not society being unfair. That's a hard reflection of where your health has gone and while the truth may sting a little bit, it might be the best thing that ever happened to you. I can tell you. I get it. I was way too big to sit in one seat. I had to get a seatbelt extender. I definitely spilled over into someone else's seat. I get it, but think about it. If needing a second seat embarrasses you, good, use that embarrassment and channel it into action. Not another crash diet, not a detox tea, not some fake quick fix. Real action, real changes, small, smart choices that add up to you never needing two seats again, because the reality is this Spilling over into the next seat isn't body positivity, like some of those assholes out there want you to believe. It's a fucking health crisis. It's lost energy, limited freedom and a shrinking life, even while your body grows and until someone or something calls you out. It's way too easy to pretend that it's not happening. So maybe Southwest is doing you a favor. Maybe that seat isn't discrimination, maybe it's accountability, a flashing red light telling you. This is the moment Change now or stay stuck. The choice, like it always has been, is yours. So let's strip away the outrage for a second and actually look at what Southwest Airlines is doing, because the internet loves to scream discrimination without bothering to read the fine print.

Jonathan Ressler 4:12

Southwest has what they call a customer size policy. It's not new, it didn't pop up last week and, yes, there's some changes, but it's been around for years. And here's how it works If a passenger can't lower both armrests and sit within the boundary of a single seat, they're required to purchase an additional one. That's it. No humiliation, no scene. No flight attendant marching down the aisle with a megaphone yelling this guy needs two seats Although, god, I'm sure the people next to me for a long time would have preferred to have that. But it's a quiet, straightforward rule. And here's the part that nobody talks about. In most cases, southwest actually refunds the cost of that second seat after the flight.

Jonathan Ressler 4:53

So what we're really talking about here isn't some greedy airline trying to wring every last dollar out of passengers. And it's not cruelty disguised as policy, it's fucking logistics, man and I know the new rule is a little bit different that you are going to actually have to pay for two seats, but big fucking deal. That's the position you put yourself into. So think about the situation from every angle. Planes are tight spaces. Every inch in a plane matters. So when one passenger spills into another passenger seat, it isn't fair that the person who paid for their space it's not comfortable. It's for their space, it's not comfortable, it's not safe and, frankly, it's not sustainable. You wouldn't expect to buy a single movie ticket and then go take up two seats in the theater, would you? Why should 3,000 feet in the air with people jammed in rows be any different?

Jonathan Ressler 5:36

Southwest isn't saying we don't like larger people. They're saying we need a solution that respects everyone on board,

Wake-Up Calls and Reality Checks

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and the solution they've come up with actually leans toward compassion. They don't kick you off the flight, they don't ban you. They don't slap a scarlet letter on your boarding pass and say, hey, buy the space you need and we'll give you your money back later Although I think that rule is changing. But even so, if you need two seats, you fat fuck get two seats.

Jonathan Ressler 6:01

I had recently had a flight where I had to sit next to a guy who was the size that I used to be and I got to tell you it was fucking uncomfortable. It's not right, but it's also about comfort. Imagine being the passenger sitting next to someone who's overflowing into your space for a four or five hour flight. You pay the same price they did, but you're effectively punished because they don't fit in the seat they purchased. That's not equitable, that's unfair and I don't think life is fair. But that fucking sucks that's the best word for it. That sucks. The person who requires more space should be the one responsible for securing it. That's pretty straightforward. That's not an insult, that's just common sense. And let's not forget this business reality Planes aren't luxury yachts. They're designed to maximize capacity and every airline has to play by the economics of available seats. One seat equals one fare. If a passenger needs two, the airline accounts for that. You wouldn't expect to walk into a restaurant, order two entrees and only pay for one. The same business principle applies here.

Jonathan Ressler 7:00

This policy doesn't just protect airlines, it protects passengers too. By putting the rule in writing, southwest avoids public shaming. There's no arguing with a gate agent about whether you deserve one seat or two. There's no angry confrontation mid-flight. It's clear, it's consistent and it gives people the dignity of making arrangements ahead of time. So let's kill the narrative that this is fat shaming. It's not. It's a company acknowledging reality and putting a system in place that balances safety, comfort and fairness. If anything, it's one of the more humane policies in the travel industry, because instead of pretending the problem doesn't exist, they're just punishing people for it. They've created a structured private solution.

Jonathan Ressler 7:42

So the real issue isn't that Southwest has a customer of size policy. The real issue is that so many people would rather call it discrimination than call it what it really is a consequence of lifestyle choices. The airline isn't attacking anyone. They're not attacking you. They're simply drawing a line where the laws of physics and the armrests demand it. That's the uncomfortable truth. The seat didn't shrink, the body grew and Southwest is simply saying we can't change physics, but we can make this work fairly and for everyone. But this is kind of where the conversation gets uncomfortable, but necessary.

Jonathan Ressler 8:24

If you need two seats in an airplane, that's not just about travel. That's a billboard-sized signal that something in your life needs to change. It's not Southwest's fault, it's not society's fault, it's not discrimination, it's a fucking wake-up call. And here's the thing Most people don't get wake-up calls until it's too late. The heart attack at 50, the pre-diabetic blood work, the doctor looking you in the eye and saying, hey, you need to do something about your weight or you won't see your kids graduate those are wake-up calls that come with trauma and fear attached. Having to buy a second airline seat, and fear attached Having to buy a second airline seat, that's actually one of the gentler ones, because if we're being real, when you can't physically fit into a space designed for a single human body, that's not a body positivity issue, that's a health issue, and no amount of hashtags or influencer cheerleading is going to make that fact that you are carrying around so much extra weight that the world literally has to make more room for you.

Jonathan Ressler 9:30

Now, before the internet and everybody fucking goes nuts, let me make something clear. It's not about shame. Shame paralyzes people. This is about truth. And the truth is, if the airline says you need two seats, you don't need a support group to tell you you're perfect just the way you are. You need to take a hard look in the mirror and ask am I okay with this? Do I really want to live like this? Because what starts with the airline seats doesn't end there.

Jonathan Ressler 9:56

If you can't fit your fat ass into a seat, you're probably struggling in tons of other ways, like tying your shoes, walking upstairs, keeping up with your kids, even just feeling comfortable in your own skin. And each of those daily struggles is a red flag waving at you saying change before it gets worse. The problem is that too many people are running from these signals. We numb them with food, with distractions. Excuses, it's my genetics, it's just how I'm built. It's society's job to accept me. No, no, no, excuses, it's my genetics, it's just how I'm built. It's society's job to accept me. No, no, no, bullshit. That's denial wrapped in a pretty bow.

Jonathan Ressler 10:31

The airline charging you for two seats isn't a punishment, it's reality. Showing up at the boarding gate and here's the irony A lot of times it's not even permanent, unlike a disease or disability. That you have no control over weight is one of the few things you can actually do something about. You don't have to stay in the body that needs two seats. You don't have to live in the shame or the struggle, but you do have to stop blaming the world and start owning your own fucking choices. Here's the uncomfortable truth that most people I know I didn't want to admit, but if you're too big for one seat, it didn't happen overnight. It wasn't one cheeseburger. It wasn't one skipped workout, because I never did workouts, it was thousands of tiny daily decisions that compounded over the years. The good news the way back is built the same exact way. The good news the way back is built the same exact way One small smart choice at a time.

Jonathan Ressler 11:27

So let me flip this around. The very fact that you're being told you need two seats could be the greatest gift you ever get. Why? Because pain motivates change more than comfort ever will. When life is easy, we all tend to coast, but when reality smacks you in the face or the hips, it forces you to decide Am I going to keep pretending this is fine or am I going to finally do something about it? That's why I call Southwest policy a wake-up call. It's not discrimination, it's not cruelty, it's not society being unfair. It's a fucking opportunity. An opportunity to stop sleepwalking through your health and start facing the truth. An opportunity to turn embarrassment into energy. An opportunity to stop saying someday and start saying today, because here's the deal. You deserve better than living in a body that doesn't fit into the world around you. You deserve to walk onto a plane, buckle your seatbelt and not worry about spilling into the person next to you. You deserve freedom, confidence and health. But those things don't come from blaming Southwest. They come from choosing differently. So if the airline says you need two seats, take a deep breath and hear it for what it really is. It's not a rejection. It's an invitation. An invitation to wake up, take control and finally decide that you're done being a passenger in your own life.

Jonathan Ressler 12:49

Now, before we go further, let me get one thing straight

Honesty vs. Shame in Weight Loss

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Shame doesn't work. It never has. If shaming people into weight loss worked, america would be the leanest country on the earth. Every cruel comment, every sideways glance, every funny meme would have solved the obesity crisis by now. But guess what? We're bigger than ever. Shame paralyzes. It makes people hide. It pushes them deeper into the exact behaviors that created the problem in the first place. Believe me, I know, but here's where the conversation actually gets real. The opposite of shame is not delusion, and that's exactly where many people have gone wrong. We've swung the pendulum so far away from shaming that we're now glorifying denial. We slap body positivity on top of a health crisis. We call obesity self-love. We celebrate being stuck because it feels better than facing the truth. All those fat activists out there who are showing off their big, fat, beautiful bodies, they're forgetting one thing You're fucking unhealthy, you're going to die. So shaming doesn't work.

Jonathan Ressler 13:56

But honesty, on the other hand, is different. Honesty doesn't say you're disgusting and hopeless. Honesty says this is the reality and you have the power to change it. Do you see the difference? Shame locks the door and honesty actually hands you the key. So think about it like this If your doctor tells you you're pre-diabetic, they're not shaming you.

Jonathan Ressler 14:18

They're telling you the truth because ignoring it could kill you. If a pilot says the plane can't take off until the weight is distributed properly, that's not shaming either. That's safety. Honesty is uncomfortable, but it's also life-saving. The problem is, honesty feels offensive when you've been living in a bubble of excuses. That's why a policy like Southwest stings. It's one of the few moments when the world stops catering to your fucking denial. The armrest doesn't give a shit about your feelings. The seatbelt that's in there doesn't fucking care about your hashtags. The scale doesn't care about trending TikTok dances. Reality is honest, whether we like it or not.

Jonathan Ressler 15:01

But here's the truth bomb. You can't love yourself into health if love means ignoring your reality. Real self-love is not treating yourself to cupcakes after a hard day. Real self-love is saying I deserve to be healthy enough to live fully. Real self-love is honesty in action. And let me tell you this honesty is not cruel.

Jonathan Ressler 15:23

Honesty is the most compassionate thing you can give yourself, because once you strip away the lies, the gimmicks, the denials, you're left with something incredibly freeing, and that's choice. You can't make better choices if you're busy pretending you don't need to. Honesty takes guts. It's a lot easier to scroll Instagram and find someone telling you oh bodies are beautiful, you fat fuck. Than it is to look in the mirror and admit I'm not okay and I'm the only one who can fix it. And here's the kicker. The diet industry loves that people confuse shame with honesty, because while you're busy fighting against shame, you're also rejecting the truth, and that keeps you stuck in their endless cycle. You'll buy the new shake, the new app, the new meal plan because it lets you feel like you're doing something without ever getting brutally honest about your choices. Their profit depends on you running from reality. That's why I say honesty is your greatest weapon. Not shame, not hype, not motivation memes.

Jonathan Ressler 16:23

Honesty, because once you admit where you are, you can finally decide where you're going. And yes, it's going to sting a little bit. The truth always does that at first. Admitting you can't fit into a seat, admitting that you're tired after one flight of stairs, admitting that you let yourself slide, that shit hurts, but guess what? Growth always hurts before it feels good. The sting is temporary, but the freedom is permanent.

Jonathan Ressler 16:48

So here's the line in the stand. Stop confusing shame with honesty. Stop running from the truth because you're afraid of being offended. The truth is not offensive. The truth is your wake-up call and if you can learn to accept it, even when it's uncomfortable, it'll be the most powerful tool you could ever use to take your life back. Because, at the end of the day, shame is about judgment but honesty is about possibility. Shame says you're broken, honesty says you're responsible. Shame says there's no way out and honesty says there's always a choice. Which one do you want to live in?

The $70 Billion Diet Industry Scam

Jonathan Ressler 17:24

So now let's talk about the elephant in the room and no, I don't mean you, I mean the $70 billion diet institute. Thrives on people saying stuck. Here's the ugly math. If diets actually worked, there wouldn't be a $70 billion market for them. Jenny Craig, weight Watchers, detox Teas, miracle Pills, personalized meal plans the whole thing collapses if people lose the weight and keep it off.

Jonathan Ressler 17:48

But that's not what happens. You know what happens. You lose 10 pounds, maybe 20, maybe more. Then you hit a wall. You feel deprived, frustrated and tired and eventually you quit. The weight comes back. You feel like a failure.

Jonathan Ressler 18:01

And what do you do? You buy the next fucking diet. The cycle is not an accident. It's the business model. Your failure equals their repeat customer. Think about it.

Jonathan Ressler 18:15

No other industry can say the same thing over and over and keep winning. If your mechanic didn't actually fix your car, you wouldn't go back to him. If your lawyer lost every case, you'd find someone new. But with dieting, people happily keep handing over their money year after year to systems that never deliver permanent results. Why? Because the diet industry is brilliant at marketing. They don't just sell products, they sell hope. They sell this time will be different. They sell shame dressed up as inspiration and, most dangerously, they sell the idea that you're the problem, that you're broken, that you just need more willpower that if you fail it's because you didn't follow the rules. That's a fucking lie. You're not broken, the system is. And while you're stuck blaming yourself, they're laughing all the way to the bank. So here's the trap in plain English Diets give you a structure so rigid it's impossible to follow forever.

Jonathan Ressler 19:09

No sugar, no carbs, eat chicken and broccoli six times a day, track every calorie like it's a felony Sure. Anybody can white knuckle through it for a few weeks. But then, when real life shows up the business trip, the birthday party, the late night with friends suddenly you cheat. Then you spiral and instead of fixing the broken diet, you blame yourself for being weak. That's the genius of their scam. Diets are designed to fail, but they convince you that it's your fault.

Jonathan Ressler 19:37

Meanwhile, the solution is so much simpler it almost feels too obvious. Stop dieting, start choosing One small, smart choice at a time, because that's the only thing you can actually stick to forever. The diet industry doesn't want you to believe that, because if you did, you'd never buy this shit again. But I'm living proof. I lost over 140 pounds and kept it off. Not with a diet, not with restrictions, not with gimmicks with choices over and over again. Not with gimmicks with choices over and over again, and if I can do it, you can do it too. The $70 billion trap only works if you keep falling for it. The second you stop buying it and start choosing, you win

Small, Smart Choices That Work

Jonathan Ressler 20:17

All right.

Jonathan Ressler 20:17

So we've talked enough about the problem. We've talked about planes and policies and wake-up calls. We've talked about honesty, not shame. We've ripped the mask off the $70 billion scam that feeds your failure. But now let's talk about the part that actually matters. What the hell can you do about it? Because the truth is, you don't need another diet, you don't need a 30-day plan, you don't need to live on salads, starve yourself or spend two hours in the gym every day. You don't need to punish yourself, and you sure as shit don't need perfection. You need decisions.

Jonathan Ressler 20:47

Here's the hard truth most people avoid. Every single time you put something in your mouth, you're making a choice. That's the foundation. It's not fucking macros and calorie counting or apps or programs. It's choices. Now, I'm not saying you have to overhaul your entire life tomorrow. That's actually why diets fail. They expect you to flip the whole world upside down in one night. Humans don't work that way. But you can make one small, smart, smart choice today, then another tomorrow, then another day after that. Stack enough of those small, smart choices together and, before you know it, you've built some momentum.

Jonathan Ressler 21:24

So what does that actually look like? Well, let me break it down for you. First, start with awareness. Track what you're eating. I don't mean write it down in some fucking journal, just track what you're going to think about it. Not forever, but long enough to face reality. If you think you're eating healthy, but your healthy smoothie has 900 calories, that's your problem right there. Awareness is power.

Jonathan Ressler 21:48

Second thing is make swaps, not sacrifices. If you love fries, great, order a small instead of a large. You love dessert, super, split it instead of eating the whole thing. You don't have to eliminate your favorite foods. You just have to stop acting like every meal is your last meal. The next thing is don't rely on willpower. Willpower is a battery that fucking drains. Choices are habits that stick. So set up your environment so the good choices are easier to make than the bad ones. Keep water nearby. Have ready-to-go snacks. Don't keep junk in the house and pretend you'll be strong. You won't. That's bullshit.

Jonathan Ressler 22:26

Next thing is play the long game. Stop obsessing about losing 20 pounds by next Friday. That mindset is what keeps you in the trap. Focus on progress, not perfection. If you're down one pound this week, you're winning. If you choose water over soda, you're winning. Small wins add up. And the last thing is stop outsourcing your responsibility.

Jonathan Ressler 22:50

The airline is not the villain. Your metabolism isn't broken. Society isn't holding you back. Every bite, every drink, every choice is on you. That might feel heavy, but it's also the most empowering truth you'll ever accept.

Jonathan Ressler 23:07

And here's the best part Once you start making these choices, the weight comes off in a way that feels effortless. Not because it's magic, but because it fits into your life. You're not following a set of ridiculous rules that you'll break in three weeks. You're actually living differently, you're choosing differently, and that is sustainable. Look, I lost 140 pounds that way. No gym, no diets, no gimmicks, no shots, just choices. If I can do it, so can you. Gimmicks, no shots, just choices. If I can do it, so can you. So here's your solution Stop waiting for the perfect plan, the perfect Monday, the perfect moment.

Jonathan Ressler 23:45

It's not coming. Start right, fucking now. Make one better choice today than another tomorrow, and then don't stop, because the truth is, no one is coming to save you. Not Southwest, not some celebrity plan, not some fucking idiot influencer, not the diet industry. The only person who can save you is staring back at you in the mirror every single day. So if you're tired of being the person who needs two seats, I got you. And let's be clear, I don't got you with another diet, another detox, another overpriced supplement or some scam designed to fail. I've got you with the truth, with real strategies, with smart choices that actually fit into your life.

Jonathan Ressler 24:29

Because here's the thing you don't need more restriction. You don't need another voice telling you to cut carbs, skip dinner, live on chicken and broccoli. You don't need guilt, you don't need shame and you definitely don't need another $70 billion lie. What you need is a plan so simple it's almost impossible to fuck it up. One small shift at a time, one better decision a day. The kind of choices that you can make on a business trip, at a restaurant or in your kitchen, or even in the airport before you board your flight. Choices that compound and choices that work. And that's why I created my free weekly tips. It's free weight loss tips.

Jonathan Ressler 25:07

Every single week, every Wednesday, I send out a quick, no bullshit tip that helps real people lose weight without adding another thing to their early pack schedules. You don't need another task, you don't need another spreadsheet.

Free Weekly Tips and Resources

Jonathan Ressler 25:19

You need something you read in less than a minute, apply immediately and actually see results from. That's what my tips are no fluff, no gimmicks, just clarity and action. And, like I said, it's completely free. No catch, no fine print, no upsell hiding in the background. Just one email once a week. That'll get you moving in the right direction. You can get them right now on my website. It's JonathanWrestlercom slash free tips. That's JonathanWrestlercom slash free tips.

Jonathan Ressler 25:48

So listen, you're not broken. You've just been lied to by the diet industry, by influencers, by every quick fix you've ever wasted your money on and, believe me, I've wasted a shitload of money on quick fixes. They all profit from your failure, but you don't have to keep failing. Right now, it's time to shut up and choose, to choose honesty, to choose freedom and to choose yourself. And it all starts today. If you want to find out how I started, how I did it, how I lost 140 pounds and kept it off for over two years, you can get my book on Amazon. It's called Shut Up and Choose. We're an Amazon bestseller.

Jonathan Ressler 26:25

I get a lot of emails from people telling me that how reading the book literally changed their life. That's really all I have to say today. I don't really have a lot of other stuff to talk about. I get that Southwest is the one that's taking the brunt of what the reality is. You need that fucking honesty in your life. You need to realize hey, if I'm a fat fuck and I need two seats, maybe I need to make a change. It's time. It's time to stop dieting and start choosing. It's time to wake up and hear what's going on around you, to see yourself in the mirror. I was a masterful. I'm not seeing myself in the mirror. This is your wake-up call. The only thing left now to do is to shut up and choose.

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You've been listening to Shut Up and Choose. Jonathan's passion is to share his journey of shedding 130 pounds in less than a year without any of the usual gimmicks no diets, no pills. And we'll let you in on a little secret no fucking gym. And guess what? You can do it too. We hope you enjoyed the show. We had a fucking blast. If you did, make sure to like, rate and review. We'll be back soon, but in the meantime, find Jonathan on Instagram at JonathanWrestlerBocaRaton. Until next time, shut up and choose.